My first date wasn’t really a date.  David Shoemaker kissed me in the underpass at our school.   He was quite a guy.

A person I really adored and loved was Hal Mayhew.  He was always bugging me to sleep with him.  Finally I agreed to but then he had a quick change of heart.  He told me: “it would change who you are.”

But then, he had a shotgun wedding!


In my mid-20’s I discover my Identity

That was while I was in college. I did a lot of different guys both in high school, and in college. We had a lot of dances and proms with all of the big band people. Bobby Vinton played our high school prom because he was from Pittsburgh. That was way before he ever became famous. We had Tommy Dorsey is band.

You name it, we had it. We had wonderful, wonderful music. We got all dressed up in our gowns.

I was never married, but I was once engaged to a guy named Bob Bell. It turned out that both of us ended up being gay.

I figured out that I was gay when I was 24 years old. I had had crashes on teachers, both men and women. My first relationship lasted until after I left Bradford College and went to New York.

I wasn’t “out,” but then nobody was!

Nobody talked about anything. Even when I went to the University of Massachusetts in 1965, people still didn’t talk about anything. The most open I have been has been since I came to California in 1998.

My first relationship lasted for six years. My second relationship last for about twelve years, and my third one was off – and – on for about fourteen years. Now, I’ve been with Faye eleven years.  I’m a long-distance runner.

Faye and I met for a while I was selling real estate; she came to an open house.  I was representing a large house, and Faye had come seeking a property in which to create a community living situation.  When I told her that it wouldn’t work, she thought that I was pretty honest.  We started to socialize a bit.

I think what attracted us were honesty and laughter.